Free Book – Cheerfulness as a Life Power

Woman jumpingCheerfulness as a Life Power – Orison Swett Marden

What a lovely little book. I was almost sad to get to the end of it, then in the spirit of the book, cheered up and realised it’s short enough for me to read over and over again. It’s written in such simple language, you can hardly believe it was written over 100 years ago when writing was often quite long-winded. It is as relevant today as it was when written. Simple, to-the-point, and beautiful.

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Impossible is Just a Word

Impossible disneyEveryone, at some point in his or her life, has dreamed of being somebody special, somebody big. Who hasn’t fantasised about being the one who scores the winning goal? Who hasn’t dreamed of being a beautiful princess? And how many times have we dreamed of being rich, or successful, or happy with our relationships?

Often, we dream big dreams and have great aspirations. Unfortunately, our dreams remain just that – dreams. And our aspirations easily collect dust in our attic.

This is a sad turn of events in our life. Instead of experiencing exciting adventures, we get caught up in the humdrum of living from day-to-day just barely existing.

But you know what? Life could be so much better, if only we learned to aim higher.

The most common problem to setting goals is the word impossible. Most people get hung up thinking I can’t do this. It’s too hard. It’s impossible. No one can do this.

However, if everyone thought that, there would be no inventions, no innovations, and no breakthroughs in human accomplishment.

“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says ‘I’m possible’!” ― Audrey Hepburn

Remember that scientists were baffled when they took a look at the humble bumblebee. Theoretically, they said, it was impossible for the bumblebee to fly. Fortunately for the bumblebee, no one has told it so. So fly it does.

On the other hand, some people suffer from dreaming totally outrageous dreams and not acting on them. The result? Broken dreams, tattered aspirations, and a lifetime of regret.

If you limit yourself with self-doubt, and self-limiting assumptions, you will never be able to break past what you believe is impossible.

Try this exercise. Take a piece of paper and write down some goals in your life. Under one header, list down things ‘you know you can do’. Under another header, write the things ‘you might be able to do.’ And under one more, list the things that are ‘impossible for you to do.’

Now look at all the headers. Strive every day to accomplish the goals that are under things ‘you know you can do’. Tick them off when you are able to accomplish them. As you are able to mark off all of your goals under that heading, try accomplishing the goals under the other header – the one that reads ‘you might be able to do.’

As the items you wrote under things you could do are accomplished, you can move the goals that are under things that are ‘impossible for you to do’ to the list of things ‘you might be able to do.’

As you work through this process, you will find out that the goals you thought were impossible become easier to accomplish. And the impossible begin to seem possible after all.

“So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then, when we summon the will, they soon become inevitable.” – Christopher Reeve

You see, the technique here is not to limit your imagination. It is to aim high, and start working towards that goal little by little. However, it also is unwise to set a goal that is truly unrealistic.

Those who just dream towards a goal without working hard end up disappointed and disillusioned.

On the other hand, if you had told someone a hundred years ago that it was possible for man to be on the moon, they would have laughed at you. If you had told them that you could send mail from here to the other side of the world in a few seconds, they would say you were out of your mind. But, through sheer desire and perseverance, these impossible dreams are now realities.

impossible mandelaThomas Edison once said that genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration. Nothing could be truer. For one to accomplish his or her dreams, there has to be hard work and discipline. But take note that that 1% has to be a think-big dream, and not some easily accomplished one.

Ask any gym rat and he or she will tell you that there can be no gains unless you are put out of your comfort zone. Remember the saying, “No pain, no gain”? That is as true as it can be.

So dream on, friend! Don’t get caught up with your perceived limitations. Think big and work hard to attain those dreams. As you step up the ladder of progress, you will just about find out that the impossible has just become a little bit more possible.

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How Challenges Become Opportunities

challengeAre you a person who loves challenges, or hates them? I must admit I’ve spent most of my life as a person who hates them. I always thought of challenges as frustrating, maddening obstacles keeping me from where I want to be. I even used to take them personally, feeling like the world must hate me and like to see me struggle. Oh, I did overcome most of them, and there were plenty, believe me, but I always wondered why it just had to be so damn hard.

As I grow older and (hopefully) wiser – I’m learning to see them differently. Most of us know that great rewards require great sacrifice and effort. You know the old saying that nothing worthwhile comes easy? In a sense that’s true. If everything we wanted was handed to us, we probably wouldn’t have a lot of appreciation for it. On the other hand, when we work hard for something and then see it manifest before our eyes, we get such a powerful sense of pride and accomplishment. We can point to it and say, “I did that. It was tough, but I did it anyway.”

Challenges are truly opportunities. Opportunities to grow and learn, to strengthen ourselves, to test ourselves and our faith. They reveal how badly we want to create the dreams in our hearts, and how hard we’re willing to work for them. This is such a blessing. It may not seem that way at first, but with a tiny shift in attitude, we can see that we have been handed an incredible opportunity.

The next time life hands you a challenge, stop and consider for a moment what it means. Is the Universe saying “no”, or “I want you to try harder?” Don’t look at challenges as an end, look at them as a door leading to your heart’s desires. That door might be locked, but you have the key. Maybe you forgot where you put the key, or you forgot that you even had it to begin with. It might take some effort and patience to find it again – or you might even have to create a new one, but believe that you will, even if you’re not sure how yet.

I’m learning that it’s not important to have all the answers right now. When challenges rise up before us, we may not know how to get around them, or through them. It might seem hopeless at first. Challenges can seem so overwhelming when we don’t have a solution. However, life itself is very much like this too. Sometimes life is like bumping around in a dark room, trying to find the light switch. It is possible to get through the room without finding the light switch immediately, we just need to step slowly and carefully. Moment to moment, we find our way.

Rather than giving up when obstacles appear in your path, look at them as welcome challenges. The biggest challenge is choosing your own attitude. Will you get flustered and angry, or will you get excited and determined? Will you lay down and cry, or will you roll up your sleeves and get to work? Some of us take on a victim mentality when obstacles arise, and I can see why this happens. I look back and see clearly that’s what I did. It does feel like the Universe is picking on us, doesn’t it? I think we’ve all been there! I know I have!

Why not change your mindset and think of obstacles as a personal challenge? Rather than feeling like the Universe is picking on you, challenge yourself to figure out a solution. Say to yourself, “Okay, such and such has happened, now what am I going to do about it”? Put your problem-solving skills to work.

Some people even actively seek out personal challenges to face head-on, so they can develop their skills and sense of courage, so that life challenges seem much less of a hurdle.

Once we begin to change our attitude about obstacles and challenges, they can actually become fun. Our competitive human nature rises up and gets ready to win, no matter what. We develop a steely determination to not be beaten.

We can even learn to welcome challenges with open arms, safe in the knowledge that our skills and strengths are going to be much improved when we get to the other side of them, and we always do. Now I can look at myself and say “Thank you challenges, you’ve made me who I am today”.

In fact, I like to pretend there is a great critic in the sky who laughs mockingly at me and says, “You can’t do that.” I simply grin wickedly, roll up my sleeves and say, “Watch me!”

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So you think I’m crazy? Thank you very much!

crazy misfitsI’m crazy. I’m weird. I’m on another planet. I’m deluded.

I’ve had these kinds of remarks a lot in the last few years, when I’ve talked to others in my social circle about Law of Attraction, dreams, metaphysical stuff, how thoughts are real, how changing attitude can change life.

Christopher Columbus believed the Earth was round and was bitterly attacked for it.

Bruno was burned at the stake for believing that the Earth was not the centre of the Universe, and Galileo was thrown in prison for teaching that the Sun was the centre of the Universe.

The Wright brothers were ridiculed and condemned for believing a machine could fly.

As Lisa Nichols talks about in this soul-inspiring video, many of our most ground-breaking and inspirational legends in history, were considered ‘crazy’ at some point.

I LOVE Lisa’s advice:

“If someone calls you crazy because of your dream, just smile and say ‘Well you know, I’m in some damn good company’!”

Nothing was ever achieved or changed in the world by someone staying on the ‘comfortable’ side of sanity. Extraordinary change can only come from extraordinary vision.

Don’t worry about the flat-earthies. Go for your dream, even if it means you’d prefer to keep it to yourself for a while 🙂

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12 Great Reasons why Smiling makes us More Successful!

smile21. Our smile shows other people that we are friendly.

If a stranger approached you, gained eye contact with you and then treated you to a broad smile you would have a fairly good idea that they are being friendly and certainly mean you no harm.

By contrast we would find it far more difficult to trust the stranger that wears a scowl or unfriendly facial expression.

2. A smile can make people happy.

When someone treats you to a smile, even a stranger, you usually smile back.  For that moment you enjoy a flash of positive communication without saying a word. As you walk through a crowded area such as a main street or shopping centre you can do this hundreds of times in a very short period of time.

When you smile at someone who is not already smiling and they smile back you have brought a moment of happiness into their lives which, who knows, could last all day.

“If someone hasn’t got a smile, give them one of yours”

3. Smiling is infectious.

When you spend a lot of time in the company of someone who smiles a lot you will soon discover that their smile starts to wear off on you.  It is hard not to return a smile; most of us do it at a subliminal level without thinking.

4. Smiling can make you popular.

Which type of people do you prefer? A person that has a tired and listless face. An expression that may reflect their inner thoughts of boredom and worry? Or, would you prefer someone who is always smiling and shows that they have an enthusiastic passion for life.

I think for the majority of us the choice would be obvious!

5. Smiling can help you to make new friends

In the same way few of us would choose a miserable person for a friend. Lets face it we all want someone for a friend who is going to be bubbly and happy and positive.

6. A smile is usually returned

When someone smiles back at you it make you feel good inside. You have just made a short but very positive communication and possibly the first step in the process of getting to know someone or making friends with someone new.

smile7. Smiling makes you positive and happy inside.

When you smile it is hard to feel unhappy, negative or sad in any way. Smiling gives you enthusiasm and drive. It is also habit forming.

8. A smile makes you look far more attractive.

You don’t see many celebrities or media personalities that are not smiling because if you did it is fairly certain that their popularity would quickly start to drop!

It’s an instant facelift!

9. Smiling also helps make you memorable to others!

Have you noticed that smiling people are usually far more memorable than those that are not? It is fact that you are 3 times more likely to remember the person that is smiling over the one that is wearing a negative or neutral expression.

10. Most importantly, smiling is good for your health!!!

When you are smiling you find whatever you are doing far easier. It releases stress, worry and tension that you may have built up throughout the day. Long term, developing the smiling habit will be one of the smartest things that you can do to improve most aspects of your life.

11. The effects of smiling can last for hours

Whatever problems and challenges you have in your life, smiling temporary puts them on hold.  For a while you forget the problems and become positive, and while you are in a positive state you have far more potential and power to advance and improve your life.

Lastly: Smiling is FREE!

You are never going to run short of smiles and will always have enough to go around.  When you weigh up the positive points of smiling it is a no-brainer decision to do far more smiling and share them with as many people as possible.

When you realise the true benefits that everyone gains from a smile it is surprising that more people don’t spend more of their time sharing them!

Keep smiling 😀

8 Reasons To Smile!

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Top Ten Reasons to Activate the LAW of GRATITUDE

gratitudeWhat would your day be like if you started and ended it by simply noticing all that you have in your life? If you count all your assets, you always show a profit. Gratitude is a natural high.

When you live in tandem with your spirit, appreciating all of life and what you have, you discover more joy and kindness in the world. Miracles happen everywhere all the time, but only those with an “Attitude of Gratitude” seem to notice them. This circle of peace grows and you return to your natural state of joy, love and peace, knowing you are whole and complete just as you are.

“Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others.” ~ Cicero

The following is a list of the top ten reasons to adopt the Law of Gratitude in your life:

1. Being in Gratitude Only Has Positive Side Effects.

Positive emotions make you feel good and offer a sense of comfort. When we take a few moments to express our appreciation inwardly or to another, immediately we begin to feel happier, more relaxed, more optimistic.

2. Feelings of Gratitude Provide Short-Cuts to Miracles.

Negative thoughts and feelings create an interruption in the natural flow of life. When you are feeling positive and grateful you accelerate what it is that you desire. Consciously appreciating what you already have is the short-cut to manifestation and the secret to personal fulfillment.

3. Thoughts of Gratitude Flood Your Body with Immune-Boosting Endorphins.

Studies also provide evidence that a positive, appreciative attitude enhances the body’s healing system and general health. When you hold feelings of thankfulness for at least 15 to 20 seconds, beneficial physiological changes take place in your body. Levels of the stress hormones cortisol and norepinephrine decrease, producing a cascade of beneficial metabolic changes. Coronary arteries relax, thus increasing the blood supply to your heart. And your breathing becomes deeper, raising the oxygen level of your tissues.

4. Feeling Grateful Puts you Back into the ‘Flow of Life’ at the Speed of Thought.

Thoughts create things. If you are feeling and thinking positive thoughts, you create positive situations. You draw positive people to you. Like attracts like.

5. Gratitude Unlocks the Fullness of Life.

Feelings of gratitude turn what you have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast or a house into a home. Gratitude makes sense of your past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.

6. Feelings of Gratitude Give You a ‘Natural High’.

Grateful people tend to be more optimistic, a characteristic that researchers say boosts the immune system. Studies indicate that daily gratitude exercises result in higher reported levels of alertness, enthusiasm, determination, optimism and energy. Grateful people experience less depression and stress, are more likely to help others, exercise regularly and tend to make more progress toward personal goals. People who feel grateful are also more likely to feel loved.

7. Gratitude Provides an Immediate Sense of Well-Being.

Gratitude, it turns out, can help us better manage stress. Gratitude research is beginning to suggest that feelings of thankfulness have tremendous positive value in helping people cope with daily problems, especially stress.

8. Feeling Grateful is the Main Cause of ‘Sustained Joy’.

Focusing on the gifts one has been given is an antidote to envy, resentment, regret and other negative states that undermine long-term happiness. Joy is the simplest form of gratitude.

9. The More You Give — The More You Receive.

You always get more of whatever you appreciate. When you express love, gratitude and sincere appreciation, you naturally expand. Consciously appreciating what you already have is the short-cut to manifestation and the secret to personal fulfillment. The more you assist others, the more you will assist yourself.

10. When You Are Genuinely Thankful Anger and Fear Disappear.

One of the incredible truths about gratitude is that it is impossible to feel both the positive emotion of thankfulness and a negative emotion such as anger or fear at the same time.

gratitude_journalTo Practice This Thought:
• Be lavish in your gratefulness.
• Make gratitude a daily ritual. Keep a gratitude journal.
• Be thankful for whatever forces you to deal with your own strong emotions.
• Set aside an hour or two to do nothing much except be grateful.

Focus on what is working in your life and what IS right in the world. It doesn’t matter how small or seemingly insignificant it may be. Before long you will notice that more things will fall into place with little or no effort on your part. Gratitude is a wonderful tool to use to feel good fast.

An attitude of gratitude brings you peace and overflows to those around you. Gratitude is a natural high. When you live in tandem with your spirit, appreciating all of life and what you have, you discover more joy and kindness in the world. Miracles happen everywhere all the time, but only those with an “Attitude of Gratitude” seem to notice them.

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The Powers of a Positive Attitude

Positive Thinking Word Cloud ConceptI am going to ask you to something very weird right now. First of all, I want you to listen to your thoughts. Now tell me, what thoughts fill your head? Would you label them as positive, or negative?

Now let’s say you are walking down the street with these thoughts. Do you think anyone who would meet you would be able to tell you what’s on your mind?

The answer to number one is up to you. But, the answer number two can be pretty generic. Although people will not be able to tell you exactly what you think, they will more or less have an idea of how you are feeling.

Here’s another question. When you enter a party filled with friends, do they all fall silent as if something terrible had happened? Or does everybody there perk up as if waiting for something exciting to happen?

You know what? The answer to all these depends on your frame of mind.

Thoughts are very powerful. They affect your general attitude. The attitude you carry reflects on your appearance, too – unless, of course, you are a great actor.

And it doesn’t end there. Your attitude can also affect people around you.

The type of attitude you carry depends on you. It can be either positive or negative.

Positive thoughts have a filling effect. They are admittedly invigorating. Plus, the people around the person carrying positive thoughts are usually energized by this type of attitude.

Negative thoughts on the other hand have a sapping effect on other people. Aside from making you look gloomy and sad, negative thoughts can turn a festive gathering into a funeral wake.

A positive attitude attracts people, while a negative attitude repels them. People tend to shy away from those who carry a negative attitude.

We can also define attitude as the way of looking at the world. If you choose to focus on the negative things in the world, more or less you have a negative attitude brewing up. However, if you choose to focus on the positive things, you are more likely carry a positive attitude.

You have much to gain from a very positive attitude. For one, studies have shown that a positive attitude promotes better health. Those with this kind of attitude also have more friends. Projecting a positive attitude also helps one to handle stress and problems better than those who have a negative attitude.

A positive attitude begins with a healthy self-image. If you will love the way you are and are satisfied, confident, and self-assured, you also make others are around feel the same way.

A negative attitude, on the other hand, has, of course, an opposite effect. So, carrying a negative attitude has a twofold drawback. You feel bad about yourself, and you make others feel the same way.

If you want to have a positive attitude, you have to feature healthy thoughts. This is probably very hard to do nowadays since, all around us, the media feeds us nothing but negative thoughts. A study shows that for every 14 things a parent says to his or her child, only one is positive. This is truly a saddening thought.

positive-thinking-collage3If you want a healthier outlook in life, you need to think happy thoughts, and you have to hear positive things as well. So, what can you do? Well, for starters, you could see a funny movie, you could play with children, spend some time telling jokes with friends. All these activities fill you with positive stimuli, which in turn promotes positive attitude.

Although it is impossible to keep ourselves from the negative things around us, you can still carry a positive attitude by focusing on the good things, the positive things in life.

And this positive attitude you now carry can be of benefit to other people. Sometimes when other people feel down, the thing people mostly do is try to give them advice. But sometimes, all they need is somebody to sit by them, and listen to them. If you have a positive attitude you may be able to cheer them up without even having to say anything.

If positive attitude is really great, why do people choose to adopt a negative attitude instead? One who carries a negative attitude may be actually sending a signal for attention. Before you get me wrong, feeling sad, angry, or gloomy is not wrong itself. But dwelling on these thoughts for far too long is not healthy either. There is a time to mourn.

As always, if you are beset by troubles, even in your darkest hour, focus on the good things in life, you will always have hope. Problems become something you can overcome.

You do not have much to lose by adopting a healthy, positive attitude. Studies show that such an attitude actually retards aging, makes you healthier, helps you develop a better stress coping mechanism, and has a very positive effect on all the people you meet every day. So, what’s not to like about a positive attitude? Adopt one today.

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Wide Awake and Dreaming

wide-awake-and-dreaming-narcolepsy-memoir-julie-flygare-book-release-1024x1024Narcolepsy is a sleep disorder that is very misunderstood. The most common reaction is ‘Oh that’s that thing where you just fall down asleep on the spot isn’t it?’. Well, it’s not exactly that, and it’s much more than that.

What most people confuse it with is the symptom of cataplexy, which is unique to narcolepsy, but not the only symptom of narcolepsy.

When people experience cataplexy, it is not falling asleep, but it is complete loss of muscle tone. Sufferers experience it most in emotional situations, which could be a shock, surprise or a laugh. These and other emotional responses cause a physical reaction in the body. When somebody with cataplexy collapses, they will look asleep because all muscles have relaxed, including their eyelids. However, if you physically opened their eyelid they would be able to see.

This is not to be confused with another symptom of narcolepsy which is excessive daytime sleepiness (EDS), a consequence of not having a good night-time sleep quality, which is often affected by REM disorder, hypnogogic hallucinations and sleep paralysis. This manifests during the day as EDS, automatic behaviour and other consequences of chronic sleep deprivation and fatigue. A friend of mine once said to me ‘You are the one person I know who really could fall asleep on a washing-line!”. It is also common for people with narcolepsy to fall asleep during a conversation, or face flat in their dinner, but you can usually feel that kind of sleep attack approaching.

Anyway, that’s the medical stuff out of the way, even though it doesn’t touch the surface of what’s actually going on inside. The medical textbooks go nowhere in explaining the psychological or social aspects of narcolepsy.

I was diagnosed with narcolepsy myself about 7 years ago, after probably about 16 years of being affected by extreme daytime sleepiness. I had noticed a huge increase in sleepiness in my 2nd year at University, to the point where I slept through most of my classes, and really only got through and passed my degree because I had a really good friend who would give me his notes after class and say ‘you can copy these and bring them back tomorrow’, and I studied mostly during the night, oh did I mention the frequent insomnia? My symptoms were often regarded by doctors as stress, as a result of a busy lifestyle studying, working and bringing up two sons by myself.

When I finally had the tests (2 nights of overnight sleep studies with about 70 electrodes attached all over my body, and also a lumbar puncture or ‘spinal tap’), and got the diagnosis I thought ‘Great, now they can fix me and I can get on with my life!’. Not so easy. It can’t be cured. A pill won’t fix it, not without having the side-effects of the medications to deal with. At best, it can be managed to a degree. The success of that management comes down to how well you can manage it, and adapt your lifestyle to suit.

Before the diagnosis, I had had to give up my own business, which I loved, and I had begun working at a regular job for a large organisation. This turned out to be disastrous. I found it impossible to work to someone else’s schedule, with stringent targets attached which caused additional stress and exacerbated my symptoms. At least with my own business, I had a degree of autonomy which had enabled me to an extent to carry it on for 8 years, much of which was spent working during the night, as I had during my University years.

What was most worrying about working for someone else at an office job was that I couldn’t control when I had to drive to work and home, and I had some pretty scary moments during that time with driving whilst sleepy. Although I had a manager who tried to help as much as possible to get my shifts changed and ease my targets, there was a lot of resistance from the company. I changed jobs and the problems became even worse when I had a less understanding line manager and company, and that was a huge multi-national financial organisation.

In the meantime, the chronic stress is what I believe caused me to develop fibromyalgia, a chronic pain disorder. I ended up losing my job, and sunk deep into the depths of despair for a couple of years. I felt like I could never have a ‘normal’ life.

I became increasingly frustrated that I felt I couldn’t be ‘normal’. It upset me when people judged me as lazy because I slept late in the mornings and needed to sleep during the day. I tried to explain to people but they just didn’t understand. I thought they didn’t want to understand because they just wanted to knock me down.

Since I had my ‘breakthrough’, and completely changed the way I think, the narcolepsy has become so much easier to deal with. I now realise that other people CAN’T know what it is like to deal with, as they don’t experience it themselves. That is not their fault. However, I have also come to realise that if they can’t be around me without feeling the need to pass judgement, and have no interest in accepting me as I am, then I can choose not to be around those people. It’s not about judgement, it’s about ACCEPTANCE.

I have discovered many values I did not know of before. I am not so quick to judge others. I am aware there are a lot of ‘invisible’ illnesses that people are dealing with. People often say to me ‘There’s nothing wrong with you, you look ok to me’. I have come to know a lot of people with narcolepsy, rheumatoid arthritis, fibromyalgia and many other conditions that people cannot see on the outside. What me and my friends all have in common is a ‘warrior spirit’. We rarely complain. We are much more accepting of others. We focus on our blessings far more than our limitations.

I have learned that just because something is what most people do, it does not mean that is everybody’s ‘normal’. A high proportion of the population may sleep from 11pm to 7am. That may be normal for them, it doesn’t mean my tendency to sleep roughly between 3am and 11am is any less normal for me. My need for a sleep during the day may not be normal in the UK, but would be perfectly normal if I siesta’d in Spain.

I have learned that the biggest problem I had was not the narcolepsy, but more to do with expectations. Other people’s expectation that I ought to be able to function as they did. And my own expectation that I ought to be functioning as others did too.

I have learned that many people are fighting a battle that we know nothing about.

I have come to consider myself extremely fortunate and grateful for the health and wellbeing that I do have. There are people struggling more than I, yet are also happy and grateful for what they DO have, rather than worrying about what they don’t have. For example, I don’t have the symptom of cataplexy. Another misconception is that ALL people with narcolepsy have that symptom. That is the reason it took me so long to be diagnosed. However, it is now estimated that at least 30% of people with narcolepsy do not have the cataplexy symptom. I cannot imagine how unsafe that must feel if you’re out and about, especially the risks of head injuries, let alone the reactions of people around.

Julie Flygare is an incredible lady who does live with narcolepsy and cataplexy. She began experiencing symptoms while at University studying Law. A young, fit, healthy grade A student with a whole life of plans and expectations before her, her world was turned on it’s head with the onset of cataplexy symptoms. Julie has written the best book available that illustrates what it means to live with narcolepsy. What I love about it is that it is not a ‘poor me’ illustration at all, but a positive, inspirational demonstration of how the choices you make to live your life will affect your level of success in managing the condition and finding happiness in your life. It may not be what you planned, but it may be your purpose in life.

Julie is generously giving away her book, Wide Awake and Dreaming: A Memoir of Narcolepsy, for FREE this weekend on Amazon.

Julie Flygare was on an ambitious path to success, entering law school at age 22, when narcolepsy destroyed the neurological boundaries between dreaming and reality in her brain. She faced terrifying hallucinations, paralysis and excruciating sleepiness aspects of dream sleep taking place while wide awake. Yet, narcolepsy was a wake-up call for Julie. Her illness propelled her onto a journey she never imagined from lying paralyzed on her apartment floor to dancing euphorically at a nightclub; from the classrooms of Harvard Medical School to the start line of the Boston Marathon.
Winner of the San Francisco Book Festival Award for Biography/Autobiography, Wide Awake and Dreaming is a revealing first-hand account of dreams gone wrong with narcolepsy. It s the brave story of one woman trampling over barriers and finding light in the darkest of circumstances.

Get ‘Wide Awake and Dreaming: A Memoir of Narcolepsy’ for FREE from

Get ‘Wide Awake and Dreaming: A Memoir of Narcolepsy’ for FREE from

Julie shows that it is not always about saying Goodbye to the life you had, although I would certainly say there is a grieving process that I went through, but discovering what you can create, which often involves thinking outside the box.

Check out Julie Flygare’s website and blog here.

I still have the physical symptoms and limitations of narcolepsy. I have just learned that I have had to open up to new possibilities I could never have dreamed of before, and when I find something that inspires me (of which I have found many), it makes life so much more enjoyable.

There is also another book, Aberrations, a fictional novel, based around a character with narcolepsy. Written by Penelope Przekop, who has subsequently become a personal friend of mine, I read this several years ago and thoroughly enjoyed her portrayal.

Twenty-one-year-old narcoleptic Angel Duet knows her father harbors secrets. He loves and protects her, but his suspicious refusal to discuss her mother s death drives Angel to worship an image created from the little history she does have: her father’s sketchy stories and her mother’s treasured photography, studies of clouds that have hung in the their foyer for more than twenty years.
When her father’s girlfriend moves in, the photographs come down, and Angel’s search for truth becomes an obsession. As she struggles to uncover the past and gain control over the narcolepsy that often fogs her world, Angel descends into a dizzying realm of drugs, adultery, and confused desire that further obscures reality.

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Your own Magic Wand

magic-wand1Today you’ve probably had plenty of people around you reminding you it’s Friday the 13th. I know I have. I really try not to believe in such superstitions any more, because all they are is a result of past negative programming. And if we believe that our thoughts and beliefs create our reality, as I am coming to learn they do as I have gathered so much evidence to support this over the last couple of years, then having beliefs like this does not support us positively.

However, some part of this superstition must have triggered something subconsciously as I ended up having, quite frankly, a crappy day! Three negative things happened (yes THREE, there’s another superstition to be released!), that knocked me more off-balance than I have felt for quite some time. The first was quite major, something that was life-changing. I believed that this was a bad circumstance I would have no choice but to endure for the foreseeable future, potentially several months or even years. But I also know through what I have learned about Law of Attraction that all is not lost as long as I can get a grip of my vibrational frequency pretty sharpish. The following 2 events were further evidence to support that my attention, energy and focus was not where it should be.

So my dominant intent became to change my focus. To soothe my resistance to the contrast I was manifesting.

I was very fortunate to have arranged to meet a like-minded friend for a cup of tea. The moment I walked in her house and she saw I was upset, she sat me down and firmly placed a rose quartz crystal in my hand. After a cup of tea, a hug, and some wise words, and still holding on to the crystal, I felt the negative charge begin to dissipate.

I returned home, knowing I needed to find the perfect meditation to further ease my emotions. I browsed through my extensive collection and settled on a ‘Quiet Mind Meditation’ by Enlightened Beings.

After listening to this, it felt like so much negativity had been released from me. I felt inspired to make a phone call. I discovered that all is not lost, and that the problem is something that my doctor may be able to help me with, so I made an appointment for early next week. Wonderful! I have time to adjust my energy frequency in the right direction over the weekend.

What else was wonderful was that it brought my attention back to using these beautiful guided meditations. I purchased this package a couple of years ago, but now and then I forget I have them. This is because I have done so much research and tried out so many more products, that they sometimes slip off my radar. The funny thing is though, when I do hit the tough times, it always seems to be this collection that I am drawn back to. And when I use them regularly and consistently I do know they work. I remember saying to an aunt, when I was telling her about them one day, that when I listen to one of these daily, I always receive some unexpected financial windfall or gift within a few days e.g. winning a competition or a cash win on the lottery or something. More important that that though, they make me FEEL good and light.

They do recommend that you listen for 45 days to see amazing results, however as I said, I generally don’t get that far as my attention jumps on to something else. I’m really asking myself why now, because I have never made such a claim about any of my other meditations as I made to my aunt about these ones.

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“Twelve Habits of Happy, Healthy People Who Don’t Give a Shit About Your Inner Peace”

innerpeaceI absolutely love this blog page someone kindly shared on Facebook today.

Life’s too short to take things too seriously.

I do love all the positive adjustments I continue to make in my life, that make me feel better about being ME. I’m loving my new healthy diet, but as this lady says, I’m not gonna worry about having the odd bar of chocolate or going out for a few beers when I fancy it.

These are the REAL

Twelve Habits of Happy, Healthy People Who Don’t Give a Shit About Your Inner Peace.

P.S. If you’ve never heard of prancercise, this will enlighten you, and maybe make you pee in your pants a little bit 😀

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